Thursday, February 28, 2013
Mommy Guilt: Time Out
When my T Bear was an only child she was quite well behaved. I rarely had to discipline her, but if I did a two minute time out was sufficient. I hated doing it. I always felt guilty. I basically felt that her "bad" behavior was a direct reflection of me. Then she turned three and became a big sister. Let's just say time outs became much more common! There were days when she had to go to time out a few times. I still felt guilty. She also developed a flair for the dramatics and would even scream and rant during a time out. This would either amp up my guilt or verify the need for the time out (mostly depending on my mood!). I hated seeing her like that, but it was more than obvious that she needed some discipline in her life. Now that she is four I find myself pleased with the use of a time out. I even give myself time outs every once in a while! I still look for reasons behind her behavior (I mean why would you bite your brother for the second time in one day??), and I still feel guilty when she does something "naughty" as we like to call it, but at least I am so much more comfortable resorting to a time out. She knows what to expect too. If she knows she has done something to warrant a time out she asks if she should go on the stairs...why yes you should my little bear. I can only imagine what life would be like without time outs! Thank you Super Nanny for all that TV training! I guess I would rather feel guilt now to hopefully help to develop a well-behaved T. Only time will tell!!